Miracles still happen! Sitting with Quinn the other day, over a cup of hot chocolate,we went on arguing about the existence of miracles in this present age.Quinn said there was absolutely nothing like miracles, in his opinion nature simply brings everything to pass at it's own time.
Well you need to read this exiting tale about Justin Clarke and his wife Christine who have both suffered heartaches over childlessness for 10 years and have given up hope considering themselves childless.
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Justin Clark is a man who will have to do a lot of queuing up
outside his own bathroom for at least the next 18 years.
He may have Toby the labrador and Sox the cat as male
allies, but there’s no doubt the 43-year-old is well and truly outnumbered by
women these days. And he couldn’t be happier.
Just over a month ago, he and his wife Christine, 36,
brought home their now three-month-old quadruplets - all girls - from the
special care unit at Rotherham Hospital.
Miracle babies: Caroline, Darcy, Alexis and Elisha were born
at 30 weeks after their mother was hospitalised
Caroline, Darcy, Alexis and Elisha were born prematurely at
30 weeks and they are very special babies indeed.
After nearly a decade of trying, the couple had almost given
up hope of becoming parents and had resigned themselves to being childless. It
was their first round of IVF that proved successful — quite spectacularly.
And that is not the only reason the quads are extraordinary.
Incredibly, they are also the result of just one embryo after it split into
three and then one of those embryos split into two.
The odds of one embryo creating four babies have never been
calculated. ‘People have quoted odds of two million to one and even 70 million
to one, but it’s simply not quantifiable as it’s never happened before,’ says
Justin.
‘We’re the first people it’s happened to and even some
doctors find it hard to believe.’
To say the couple are shell-shocked is an understatement.
Mothers of multiples often say parents of single babies ‘have absolutely no
idea how hard it is’.
Having given birth to identical twin girls 11 months ago,
I’ve said it myself through gritted teeth lots of times.
So it’s with a mixture of profound admiration, curiosity and
a tiny bit of commiseration for the sleep they will never regain that I meet
Justin, a lorry driver, and Christine, a nurse, at their three-bedroom ‘but
one’s only a box room’ semi-detached home in the South Yorkshire village of
Brinsworth.
The only evidence of the babies’ presence are the dark
circles under their parents’ eyes. But echoing from upstairs there’s no mistaking
the fragile bleating of a newborn demanding attention.
‘Excuse the mess,’ says Christine needlessly as she leads me
into a room strewn with baby paraphernalia.
All four tiny girls, still weighing only around 5-6lb each,
are snuggled up like dormice in one cot.
Three are fast asleep, but Alexis is testing her lungs to
full capacity. Gently, Christine picks her up, cuddles her and she calms down.
Mum’s clearly a natural.
But then she and Justin have waited a long time to become
parents.
‘You wait nine years for one baby and then get four at
once,’ smiles Christine. ‘We’re just so lucky.’
Justin and Christine met in a pub 12 years ago and married
three years later. Like most young, married couples, they longed to start a
family.
‘I’d always wanted to be a mum,’ says Christine. ‘I don’t
come from a big family, but children were always on the agenda. We started
trying before we got married, but nothing happened.
‘I was only 25, so I didn’t panic. But after two years we
went to our GP who did lots of tests. It turned out I had polycystic ovaries
and would probably need help to get pregnant.
‘It was very upsetting. Friends were getting pregnant and
while I was always happy for them and never jealous, I would be thinking: “Why
isn’t it happening for us?”’
The couple tried several treatments, including the ovary-stimulating
drug Clomid, but the side-effects made Christine ill.
‘IVF was really a last resort because we knew what a
rollercoaster it could be,’ she says.
‘People don’t understand unless they’ve done it, and we
discussed whether we wanted to put ourselves through it. It was our final
hope.’
Justin and Christine were referred to Care Fertility in
Sheffield, and were offered two rounds of IVF on the NHS.
The couple’s fears were realised when only two of
Christine’s eggs were collected for fertilisation. Sadly, one of those eggs
turned out to be too immature to be used.
‘I was devastated,’
says Christine. ‘I couldn’t believe that I’d put my body through so much to get
only one chance. I know women who get about 12 eggs and I had only one shot at
it.
‘There was a moment where I really did think: “What’s the
point?” But as our midwife told us: “You only need one egg.”’
Once the embryo had been implanted, Christine was told it
would take 12 days before a pregnancy test confirmed whether it had worked.
Perhaps inevitably, she couldn’t wait that long.
‘I cheated and took the test on day ten, and was absolutely
shocked when it came out positive,’ she says.
‘In nine years of trying, I’d never had a positive pregnancy
test. I couldn’t believe my eyes.
‘I took the test downstairs to Justin, who said: “What does
that mean?” I told him to read the box and when he had, he was speechless.’
By this point, the couple dared to believe they were finally
going to be parents — to one baby. It was seven weeks later that they were
given the most astonishing piece of news.
‘I was lying on the scanning bed and the sonographer was
looking at the screen, but not saying a word,’ says Christine.
‘I felt sick thinking something had gone wrong, but she
quickly reassured me that I was definitely pregnant. Then she said: “I can see
three sacs — you’re having triplets.”
‘I was in total shock. So was Justin. The sonographer wanted
a second opinion, so she asked us to go to the waiting room and she’d get a
consultant to confirm it.’
Justin says: ‘We sat outside and all we could hear were the
staff buzzing around us, saying: “It’s triplets, it’s triplets!” It seemed to
be an eternity before we went back in that room.
‘As the senior consultant Dr Shakar scanned Christine, he
looked closely at the screen and then said: “You’re not having triplets — it’s
quads.” We were gobsmacked. And so was he!
‘We all saw four little heartbeats. I kept counting them in
my head “One, two, three, four”, but it was too much to take in. We’d gone from
having no babies to four babies in one go.’
Any multiple pregnancy is fraught with risk, but four
foetuses meant four times the danger to mother and babies. The medical experts
confronted the couple with a stark decision.
Fatherly love: Mr Clark dotes on 11-week old Alexis. He has
stopped working as a lorry driver to care for his four daughters
‘We were offered selective termination on several occasions
- where the doctors would have aborted two of the babies to help the remaining
two survive - but we were against it,’ says Christine.
‘We wouldn’t have had to choose which babies were terminated
- the doctors would have done that for us
- but Justin and I don’t believe in abortion.
‘Even if there had been something seriously wrong with the
babies, I don’t think I could have lived with getting rid of two of them.
‘That’s also the reason why we didn’t take the test for
Down’s syndrome. We knew it carried a risk.
‘I’d waited too long for children and didn’t care what
happened to me. I was prepared to risk it.’
The pregnancy was far from easy and Christine suffered from
severe morning sickness.
‘It was horrific,’ she says. ‘People said to me after my
12-week scan “You should be full of energy now”, but I was being sick morning,
noon and night. I’d even wake up in the middle of the night and throw up.
‘Justin wanted to find out the sex of the babies at 20
weeks, but I said: “No way.” If the pregnancy was going to be this hard, I
wanted to have a lovely surprise at the end of it.
‘By this point we’d got our heads around the fact we were
going to have four babies. We had no idea how we’d afford it. But people have
been so generous and donated clothes, pillows and even a rocking chair.’
Christine was admitted to hospital for bed rest at 24 weeks
and the twins were delivered by Caesarean section at 30 weeks on March 25,
weighing between 2lb and 3lb each.
‘We had more than 42
staff and took up two surgical theatres,’ she says. ‘Everyone wanted a
front-row seat. When the babies came out, they were whisked into a side room
and Justin went with them.
‘It was upsetting for me as I was desperate to see them, but
I didn’t get anywhere near them for 24 hours. That was hard.
‘Justin took 253 pictures of them to show me because I went
straight to high dependency. The babies had bruised my lungs because they’d
been kicking me so hard.’
Christine left hospital a week later, but her daughters
remained in special care for nine more weeks until they came home at the end of
May. ‘I couldn’t wait to have them home,’ Christine says. ‘I wanted to be their
mother and look after them here.’
Now they have been home for more than a month and life has
changed beyond all recognition.
Justin has left his job to help care for his daughters and
plans to be a full-time house husband.
‘It’s pointless me going back to work because my wages would
not even cover the childcare,’ he explains.
‘I’m looking forward to it. After all, being a long-distance
lorry driver and a full-time carer of quads is very similar. You’ve got to work
long hours, the work is very monotonous and you can’t take your eyes off the
ball for a second in case there is an accident!
‘I’m chief nappy changer anyway — I changed more than 25
yesterday — and it doesn’t faze me.
‘I know which girl is which because I memorise what they are
wearing in the morning. But sometimes Christine tricks me by changing their
top. I’ve been caught out a couple of times.’
The couple are not relying on state benefits apart from the
statutory £60 a week child benefit.
After a year’s maternity leave, Christine plans to go back
to work part-time because her salary is higher than her husband’s.
Today, they are surviving on snatches of sleep, the
benevolence of family and friends and hand-me-down clothes.
Volunteer nursery nurses are helping them care for the
children, too. The babies get through more than 200 nappies a week and at least
one box of formula milk every 48 hours.
Admirably, Christine managed to express breast milk for the
first seven weeks before an infection prevented her from continuing.
‘The babies feed every four hours, but it takes at least an
hour to feed all four of them, so by the time you’ve finished you’ve only got
two or three hours until the next feed,’ says Christine.
‘It’s tiring, of course, but it’s not the kind of tiredness
that comes from work. It’s really worthwhile.’
Logistically, it’s a nightmare. Anyone with one baby will
know that leaving the house can take for ever. What’s it like with four?
‘If we go out, we take two tandem prams, but if we have to
drive I take the four girls in the car and Justin has to walk or get the bus!
We went shopping the other day, and managed to get out of the house in just two
hours!’
The comments the couple receive from strangers will be
familiar to any mum of twins or triplets -
‘You’ve got your hands full there’ or ‘Oooh,
double/triple/quadruple the trouble . . .’
‘I love the fact that people come up to us and say nice
things, but I do feel like saying: “Yes thanks, I know!” ’ smiles Christine.
‘Someone asked me the other day if we were going to have any
more children. I think the answer to that is absolutely not!’
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I agree with Quinn.These things happen
ReplyDeleteAll by nature may be thats what some people call miracle. What justin and wife experienced is not surprising to alot of people.why all the exageration
God's perfect time is truly the best.
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